Boundaries...

I guess.. it's never easy to write about boundaries.. because when we try to draw a line, some people would have already expected that they are within their boundaries.. but in truth.. they are not.

When we put boundaries these are areas where others should not enter, like for instance in a marriage.. when 2 ppl are married, how are their lives knitted together should not be torn by the inclusion of others.

Once the freedoms within singlehood can no longer be permitted into a marriage (and vice versa)

So in speaking to different ppl depending on which side of the boundary, we have to respect the boundaries that have been set by the single or the marrieds.

For example

Singles don't like to be asked
- So when's your turn?
- When are you gonna settle down? What's wrong with you?
- Why are you so picky?

Marrieds don't like these statments
- So when's your turn? esp about kids
- How's your husband/wife? especially the if it's the single of the opposite gender that's asking, even if it's out of genuine concern
- You've changed. Of course I've changed. I'm married

I guess this will be a lifelong battle that we have to learn to be aware and yet not oversensitive about, we must guard the areas of our lives because they are precious to us and not let anyone or anything take a foothold in it.

Learn to take one stride at a time, and recognise ppl will make these mistakes and ask these questions because they don't know their boundaries..

GERAM? Play this song lah

A song from the past that I enjoyed as a kid. hahahhaha

New Hope Sermon: Ask What not Why..

Below is the notes for the sermon i just listened to.. I pray that we as the Body of Christ will continue to follow these basic principles of living..

Listen&Watch to the sermon here


My 3 take home points
a. Not let our education become a religion, but let it become a revelation for our relationship
b. Who am I when I am in a different and unfamiliar situation. My relationship will determine who I am when I am in a different place
c. Ask God "What you want me to do?" not "Why does this happen to me?" in every situation.

Saul: God's Interruptions


"And it came about that as he journeyed, he was approaching Damascus, and suddenly a light from heaven flashed around him; and he fell to the ground, and heard a voice saying to him, 'Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting Me?'" (Acts 9:3-4)


# Pay attention to SIMPLE reminders.
"And when we had all fallen to the ground, I heard a voice saying to me ... 'Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting Me? It is hard for you to kick against the goads.'" (Acts 26:14)

"Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin ..." (Zech. 4:10 NLT)

# Change is from the INSIDES.
"Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men's bones and all uncleanness. Even so you too outwardly appear righteous to men, but inwardly you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness." (Matt. 23:27-28)

"I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me ..." (Gal. 2:20)

# When God prompts a change, ask WHAT not WHY.
"And I answered, 'Who art Thou, Lord?' And He said to me, 'I am Jesus the Nazarene, whom you are persecuting.' ... And I said, 'What shall I do, Lord?' And the Lord said to me, 'Arise and go on into Damascus; and there you will be told of all that has been appointed for you to do.'" (Acts 22:8-10)

"And Zaccheus stopped and said to the Lord, 'Behold, Lord, half of my possessions I will give to the poor, and if I have defrauded anyone of anything, I will give back four times as much.'" (Luke 19:8)

Roots & Wings: Reading it..

Am beginnning to read a discipleship book , Roots & Wings by Pr Edmund and Ann Chan of CEFC Singapore.. here's part of what's going thru my mind today.

Was reading an excerpt out of Chuck Colson's book (as quoted in Roots & Wings).. in summary... Our affluent society and technology advancements has resulted in a life that is self centred, self absorbed, frightened and hollow ppl..
And we are all in the consumeristic lifestyle.. that says "Give us what we want" and Commercials says it all.. And business leaders do just that..

This culture even permiates the church.. are we serving the congregation what they want.. or do we present to God what God wants?

Technology and advancement should help us in our worship to be drawn towards God Himself.. to give Him our love, worship and to glorify Him!